Sandra Butler and Nan Fink Gefen 2017-05-15T23:07:04+00:00

Project Description

Sandra Butler is the author of Conspiracy of Silence: The Trauma of Incest. Her second book, Cancer in Two Voices, coauthored with Barbara Rosenblum, was the winner of the 1991 Lambda Literary Award. She is also the co-producer of the award-winning documentaries Cancer in Two Voices and Ruthie and Connie: Every Room in the House. She has two middle-aged daughters and a rich community of women friends.

Nan Fink Gefen is the author of Stranger in the Midst: A Memoir of Spiritual Discovery, Discovering Jewish Meditation, and Clear Lake: A Novel, winner of the IndieFab Gold Award for general fiction. After fifteen years in practice as a psychotherapist, she became the cofounding publisher in 1986 of Tikkun magazine, a journal of politics, culture, and society. In 2007 she founded Persimmon Tree: An Online Magazine of the Arts by Women Over Sixty, where she remains as publisher. Nan lives with her husband in Berkeley CA. Their blended family includes seven children and ten grandchildren.


As mothers and daughters age, their relationship shifts and changes in complex and often demanding ways. In It Never Ends, women speak openly about the heartaches and satisfactions of mothering midlife daughters, revealing the issues that arise, the ongoing effects of the past on the present, and the varied and often invisible ways in which they continue mothering. Some describe how they silence themselves to avoid their daughters’ impatience or disapproval, and how this self-silencing makes them feel unknown and unseen; some struggle with sorrow and guilt about what is missing from the relationship; and still others accept their inevitable limitations, forgive themselves and their daughters for mistakes made, and grow to more fully appreciate their deep bond.